If You Love Me, If You Love Him, If You Love Her...Say It

Love Doesn't Hurt....Period.

Fairy Tales and Realities

A heart is a heart. It's blood, muscles and veins. Fairy tales don't exist (so stop trying to make them come true)....but love is also more than your blood, your muscles, your veins. Love is a reality. Be optimistic about reality.

She Was A Sour Girl

"She was so happy on the day that she left me / The day that she left me / The day that she left me"....This song absolutely consumes me (I LOVE saying that!).

*Side Lipton: Singer, Scott Weiland and guitarist, Dan DeLeo, wrote this song about Weiland's ex wife who, as Weiland describes, was care free when she was without him but held emotionally hostage while they were married.*

You Gave Me The Kiss Of Life

"When I was led to you / I knew you were the one for me / I swear the whole world could feel my heartbeat"

These last few weeks I've felt really in tune with the feelings of my friends. I've listened to them as they've pondered their futures, sat with them as they've spilled their guts, seen them blindly try new things, and watched them as their hearts have broken, like mine once did. I guess you could say it's awakened something inside of me. Over the years it was them helping me to heal from my wounds and now I feel like I've become the big brother, confidant and healer that they once were for me. I feel connected to them. I feel LOVE for them. They helped build me back up to a place of freedom and (self) love and I want to do the same for them. I want them to know that they have someone who loves them because I've seen just how much they love me. I have LOVE and it's their's to share in.

"You wrap me up in / The color of love / You gave me the kiss of life / Kiss of life"

A Voyage To Atlantis, By Way Of Love

"She's my lady, now and ever / Ooh, how can I know? / Can we go all the way, together / Ooh, let it be so."

My father once told me that no one really knows if their relationship will work. He didn't even know if his relationship with my mom would last. As he put it, "One morning I woke up and realized that we were still together. We made it this far." I appreciate him for being honest enough to admit that "you just don't know."

Can I go on my way without you? / Ooh, how can I know? / If I go on my way without you? / Ooh, where would I go?


I don't think anyone goes into a relationship thinking that it's going to end...but for some, it does. Love, despite it's amazing strength, is not enough to make a relationship last. You need a HELL of a lot of other IMPORTANT things, too. But love, itself, is resilient. It lasts...even when you're heart is breaking...even when you know your relationship is dying. And for some, even the ones that don't want to admit it, it lives on long after the relationship has died.

"So we'll say our last goodbye / And we'll make it this time / Set sail with me / To a paradise out beyond the sea / Atlantis is back to you / I'll always come back to you."

I never "set sail," again. My time at sea, in that relationSHIP, had come and gone (Now I just chill on the beach and stare at hot guys). But for others the love is still there. So, for you, I present you with The Isley Brothers' "Voyage To Atlantis."...set sail, baby.



Check out a live version of the song below.

The Berger Syndrome - Avoid Being The Bad Guy/Asshole

Awkward phone conversations. Gmails. Tweets. Going AWOL. Facebook relationship status changes...and post-it notes. Is it just me or does it seem like no one gives a respectable break-up these days? A friend and I think it's pretty much become (or rather, always has been) the norm. When it comes to break-ups everybody seems to be getting Berger'd. But really, is it too much to ask for a guy/girl to be brave and tell someone face to face that they no longer want to be in a relationship? I honestly don't think it is.

Thoughtfullness...Decency...Honor. It REALLY is that simple, people...Aside from the raw emotions and heartbreak, that is.